Homily for Proper 7, Year A
Grace and Holy Trinity Episcopal Church
Lectionary Texts:
Psalm 69: 8-11, (12-17), 18-20
[Contextual Note: Grace and Holy Trinity was the parish that I served in seminary; they are part of my own formation. Many people hearing this know that I was a practicing social worker for many years, who became a Professor of Social Work and during that time, I was called to the priesthood and went to seminary as part of my own vocational formation for ministry. Four years later, I now serve as the Vocations Minister for the Episcopal Diocese of Virginia.]
When I was in social work graduate school, every social worker in training had to take two classes in our first semester. The first one was a course on Family Systems Theory, where we delved into an understanding of the ways that not only individuals but also families tend to relate to each other: the way we form relationships, deal with conflict, and create functional…and sometimes dysfunctional…ways of coping with the challenges of life. At the same time, we had to take a course called the “Therapist’s Own Family” (you’ll note, it’s abbreviation TOF is best pronounced, “TOUGH”) in which all those erudite things we learned in the theory course got applied to our own family systems. Yikes. The word around campus when I started the program was that one had to do a tremendous amount of studying to get an “A” in the theory course, and one had to break down sobbing to get an A in the other. I can verify both of those things were true!
I learned a few really important things from that experience, though. First, it made me realize that learning about something is not the same as applying those lessons to oneself. It’s very easy to keep knowledge at a head level: intellectualizing the challenges of family life, in this case. It’s another thing to apply that knowledge at a heart level. I had to go to class every week and speak out loud about things that I didn’t want to speak about. And at the same time, I learned to listen with empathy and compassion to my class colleagues doing exactly the same thing. Through that process, I learned that I was not better or worse than anyone else. We were different: each of our families had challenges, and each of our families had resilience. We all learned that there were secrets that our families wanted to keep hidden: that the family system protects itself by not letting anyone else see or know the challenges, especially where there is stigma or shame around particular experiences. My mind wrapped around the why and how in theory class. But in TOF class, the lessons became real: it was like shining a light into all the shadowy places of my own heart. In doing so, I learned compassion for myself and for others which gave me the tools I needed to do the work of social work I’d been called to do.
Our Gospel lesson today drops us into the middle of Jesus’ mentoring of his disciples to do the work he had called them to do: not just theoretically but with real implications. Keep in mind that the word “disciple” means “learner” and some lessons are tough. Jesus was preparing his disciples as learners sent to do God’s work in the world and to see people as God sees them: “nothing is covered up that will not be uncovered, and nothing secret that will not become known.” He keeps right on going with this tough-teaching to his disciples: “don’t be afraid” he tells them, even when their own safety and well-being seem to be on the line: the ultimate value is one’s soul to God, not playing it safe in this life.
The disciples were not being called to easy work. No. They were being called to get their hands dirty, to get their hearts involved, and to see themselves as no greater than or lesser than anyone else. Jesus was giving them some lessons in tough love.
This Gospel is giving us some tough love, too, especially in this final portion. When our lessons are challenging, we need to sit with them. So, this week, I’ve been sitting with these jarring words and I’d like to offer up a few lessons that have emerged for me.
First: peace isn’t always what we think it is. It’s easy for us to confuse the comfort of the familiar with the true peace that emanates from God. Like the disciples, we can let the familiar become an escape from our fears. We keep secrets; we don’t rock the boat; we keep everything calm and under control even when we see the world hurting and broken. We can be tempted to smooth things over so things look smooth and perfect. But we aren’t asked to attain perfection before we follow Christ. We aren’t better than or worse than anyone else. We are ourselves. We are asked to bring our strengths and our challenges; our shame and our resilience. And in this journey of discipleship, we too will be broken open.
I go back to the lesson of my first semester of social work graduate school: you can’t learn to do the healing work, without first recognizing your own need for healing. Or, to put it into theological language: in order to do the kingdom work of helping to heal the brokenness we see in this world, we need to make room for the healing Grace of God in our own lives.
These words of Jesus, “I have come not to bring peace, but a sword” are jarring. And maybe that’s the point. Maybe the jarring nature of Jesus’ love and grace are what shakes us out of our perfection paralysis and shame-induced status quo, and reveals wounds in need of healing. Maybe the superficial peace of the ways things always have been gets in the way of the healing work that still needs to happen. That’s true beyond our own selves and families, too. Our silence in the face of the injustice and hurt we see inflicted on others in this world keeps us from acting in the very ways that discipleship demands of us. It reminds me of a famous quote from Bishop Desmond Tutu:
“If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor.” -Desmond Tutu
This opens us up to the next lesson: the hard work of discipleship always starts with our own hearts first. Are there areas of discipleship that we’ve closed ourselves off to? What are the fears that keep us paralyzed from standing up for the kind of justice, compassion and mercy that Jesus demonstrates in his miracles of healing and his profound compassion for those at the social margins of this world? What makes it so hard for us to speak up about the good news?
The Good News, friends, is that these questions we struggle with today are the same lessons that Jesus is holding out to his disciples for their learning. They are lessons for the church, which is why we worship, we confess, we pray and we support and encourage each other to do the work that we are called to do, even when it is hard.
A third lesson: we are all disciples; that means that we are all learners. My learning as a social worker never stopped after those classes. And my learning as a priest didn’t stop with seminary: it continues, too. Our Epistle lesson caught my attention this week, speaking of being united with Christ in Baptism, in death and in resurrection. It took me to one of the prayers in our prayer book that has most impacted me: the Prayer of Commendation prayed when ministering to someone at the time of death, or as part of the funeral liturgy: Acknowledge, we humbly beseech you, a sheep of your own fold, a lamb of your own flock, a sinner of your own redeeming.
The first time I offered that prayer, I was sitting with my Dad during his final hours. I was and I still am profoundly aware that the prayer applies not only to the person with whom I am pastoring; it also applies to me. It applies to each and every one of you, too. The power of that prayer isn’t just for the benefit of the dying and bereaved: that prayer breaks us open and links us to our Baptism. It serves to remind us at all times that even at our most vulnerable state we are loved, we are known, we are welcomed by our Good Shepherd, and we are…all of us…redeemed and transformed by that love.
That brings me to the final lesson I’d like to share with you today: praying…truly and honestly praying…is not a passive act. It is an act of vulnerability and an act of healing. That’s because prayer isn’t only for the recipients…prayer changes us. Through that Prayer of Commendation I am reminded…not just in my mind but in my heart…that all the beloved sheep of God’s fold are held in that same transforming and redemptive love. Yes, those who are beloved to us. But also, the people we don’t like very much, that we don’t agree with, that have harmed us, that we ourselves have harmed through our action, or our inaction. It applies inwardly, too…God sees even the most hidden places of our lives where we’d rather not have a light shine, thank you very much. And God loves us. We are the sheep of God’s fold, lambs of the flock of the Good Shepherd, sinners who have been redeemed by grace.
Prayer pierces our hearts with vulnerability. Through prayer, we come to know that we are loved, broken open, transformed a little more every time we pray so that we can truly live into the vision of discipleship that Jesus holds out not just to the named apostles in today’s lesson, but also to all of us. Discipleship is our lesson to be learned. Relationship is God’s desire for us. The Sword of the Spirit which is the Word of God cuts through the complacency so that we, and the world around us, can be transformed and made new. And our prayers open a space for God to speak, and move and transform us. We aren’t meant to stay the same. We are meant to change, to learn, to heal…and in doing so, to heal others and this world in which we live.









